I pick Noah up from school every day at 2:45 pm, except on Friday, then it’s 1:30 pm. I customarily ask him how his day was. Today I asked him, and he said, “OK, except for one thing”. “Oh, what’s that?”, I asked. He paused for a few seconds and then said that he didn’t want to talk about it. I let it go then because that is not an abnormal response for him, also, somethings he will talk about more comfortably with mom than me, and I knew that she would be asking the same question when she got home from work.
About an hour later she called from work. First question out of her mouth was, “How was Noah’s day?” So I told her what he said. She replied with, “I wonder if it has anything to do with yesterdays issue.” “What was yesterdays issue?” I asked. “He got pantsed.” “What?!!” I was floored. (I’m thinking, why wasn’t I told, I’m only the father.) So, mom tells me what happened. In the end Noah didn’t want her to say anything to the school because the boys involved were, “My friends”, and he didn’t want them to get into trouble, and besides, Noah said, “They were just fooling around and having fun.”
So sad, Noah is so desperate for friends that he would think that these guys were just being “friendly”.
When Holli got home she went to Noah and ask him how his day was. A short conversation revealed that he had been pantsed again. It was time to take action. Holli contacted the school through his teacher and the principal, informing them what had happened and demanding answers and resolution. She was told that they would look into it and informed her that “pantsing had become a thing on campus”.
Meanwhile Holli tried to explain to Noah that these guys were not his friends, and that pantsing is not a sign of friendliness.
Written April 2025